23 Super Silk Anniversary Gifts (4th Year) for Him & Her!
Four years have flown by since you said your I-do’s! Besides being in disbelief, you realize it might be nice to recognize this moment by gifting something special to either him or her.
As we’ve said in prior anniversary year posts, we believe that each wedding anniversary deserves to be as thoughtful as the last. After all, 4 years of marriage is a huge accomplishment that deserves time to reflect and celebrate.
First, we’ll briefly discuss what the traditional 4th anniversary gift (silk) is all about.
What is the Traditional 4th Anniversary Gift?
As you may be well aware, when it comes to anniversaries there are corresponding gifts for gemstone colors, flowers, and materials (like cotton or silk). When I first set out to write this post, I was taken aback by the amount of misleading information, which left me confused as to the traditional gift for a 4th anniversary.
Many ranking sources on Google say that the traditional fourth wedding anniversary gift for the United States is Fruit/Flower and for the UK the traditional gift is Silk/Linen. However, jump over to a resource like Wikipedia and the reverse information is given!
So I decided to dig deeper and go to the source.
The origins of the current gift conventions date to 1937. Before that, only the 1st, 5th, 10th, 15th, 20th, 25th, 50th, and 75th anniversaries had an associated gift. In 1937, the American National Retail Jeweler Association (now known as Jewelers of America as a result of an organizational merger) introduced an expanded list of gifts.
The revamped list gave a gift for each year up to the 25th, and then for every fifth anniversary after that, which is still widely used today. If you look at a book written by Emily Post, an American writer from the earliest 20th century, she states that the fourth year wedding anniversary gift is in fact silk. In Emily’s book The Blue Book of Social Usage, you can see all the wedding anniversary gift milestones as illustrated in the photo below.
I think it is safe to go with that — in the United States the traditional 4th year anniversary gifts are either silk or linen, while the modern 4th anniversary gift is an appliance.
That being said, if you are coming from the U.K., you better stick with fruits and flowers.
Gemstone for 4th Anniversary
If you are looking at buying a piece of jewelry as an anniversary gift, look for pieces with blue topaz or blue zircon.
Flower for 4th Anniversary
Hydrangeas are the flower of choice for your 4th anniversary. Colorful and robust, these flowers look lovely in an anniversary bouquet. Choose pink to symbolize love and emotion, white for abundance or purple for deep understanding. These flowers are sure to add brightness to your special day together.
4th Anniversary Gifts for Him, Her, and Them
The honeymoon stage doesn’t have to end after the first, second, or third anniversary and can continue to the 4th year anniversary too! Keep the spark alive with these romantic and practical silk or linen gift ideas. Oh, and…
We don’t split gifts into “for him,” “for her,” or “for couples” anymore—styles and preferences overlap too much these days. Instead, we’ve kept the list tight so you can easily scroll through, skip what doesn’t fit, and still find plenty of options for him, her, or both of you together.
Custom Words Silk Scarf
We love how personal this scarf can be. It’s more than just a silk accessory—it’s a keepsake woven with your own words. Whether you’re telling the story of a relationship, celebrating a milestone, or sharing memories of someone special, this luxe charmeuse scarf turns it into a meaningful gift they’ll actually wear. Just submit your custom text, and the designer transforms it into a one-of-a-kind print. Ideal for bridesmaids, moms, anniversaries, or anyone who deserves something thoughtful and completely unique.
Silk Eye Mask
As of recently, I’ve taken to wearing an eye mask at night. It is life changing when it comes to the sleep department — especially whilst traveling on vacation.
I can only imaging what a silk eye mask would feel like.
If they likes sleeping with an eye mask, it may be time to upgrade to a luxurious silk one. You could spice up this gift and ignite quite the spark in the bedroom by adding a complimentary set of silk restraints, but we will leave that bonus accessory to you!
Made to Measure Custom Fit Shirt
Every man should have at least one (I suggest more than that) made to measure shirts in their closet. These high-quality shirts are made to your man’s precise measurements. The result is a shirt that fits like a glove. Let’s be honest, this gift is for you as much as him, since you won’t want to take your eyes off him in this shirt.
Linen Anniversary Maps Picture
We’re always on the hunt for meaningful anniversary gifts, and this one hits all the right notes. Designed for a linen wedding anniversary, this personalized artwork features three heart-shaped maps—marking places like where you met, got engaged, and got married—all printed on textured linen-style card and finished with delicate crystals. The solid wood box frame adds a polished, gallery-worthy feel. You can fully customize the text and locations to tell your story, making it a keepsake that feels personal, thoughtful, and one-of-a-kind.
Silk Pillowcase
Looking for a gift that’s pure luxury, while also being practical?
I originally saw one of these silk pillow cases on a talk-show segment and though it sounded like a great idea. It promises to help with bedhead, wrinkles and sleep crease. As well as being hypoallergenic, dust mite-resistant, and allows skin to breathe unlike synthetic satin (polyester) — hello who doesn’t want to sleep on a silk pillow?
And from all the positive reviews this pillow case receives, albeit a little on the pricier side, I think it looks like a worthy splurge for a cooler, more restful night’s sleep. Once they sleeps on this, they won’t want to rest their head on anything but a silky pillow again.
Silk Pajama Set
I don’t know anyone who wouldn’t want to lounge around in a pair of silk pajamas. Do you?
If they doesn’t have their very own pair yet, what better time to upgrade than on your 4th wedding anniversary with a luxury natural silk set.
Silk Blossom Diffuser
This diffuser is made of wood but we like it because it can work for some many anniversary themes! There is, of course, wood. There is 4th anniversary (flowers!) and you can make it work for almost any theme by adding a scent. For example, if you want to follow the “silk” theme you simply get a “silk blossom” scent to make it work the silk theme. Silk blossom scent smells like the blooms of a silk tree. Set a joyful mood on your anniversary (and the rest of the year) with this sweet smelling gift.
Flower Subscription
Yes, flowers can be a cliche gift, but hear us out! We fell in love with BloomsyBox because they’ve totally reinvented the traditional bouquet experience.
Instead of a one-and-done gift that wilts in a week, this is the gift that keeps on giving.
We love how customizable everything is. Whether you want weekly deliveries for a flower enthusiast or monthly surprises for someone who appreciates an occasional bloom, there’s a plan that fits. Plus, with options like pet-safe flowers and specialty collections starting at just $39.99, you can really tailor the gift to her lifestyle.
Blue Topaz Jewelry
Jewelry is always a safe gift choice for a memorable day, especially in the appropriate gemstone for your 4th anniversary. With ocean-blue hues and mixed-cut gemstones, you will wow them your great taste in fine jewelry. Here are just a few amazing options – with many of them surprizingly affordable!
Blue Topaz and White Sapphire Mixed Shape Drop Earrings
Blue Topaz Necklace Men Oxidized Silver
Swiss Blue Topaz Round Stud Earrings
Silk Slouch Hat
Most good beanies are made of wool and are super itchy but not this one! It’s made of super soft and luxurious silk! It’s also kind to skin and is able to maintain your head at a comfortable temperature. Maybe get one for yourself while you’re at it…..
Silk Cufflinks
These cufflinks are a standout thanks to Liberty of London’s bold Strawberry Thief print—detailed, dramatic, and instantly recognizable. Made with 100% silk and set in a sleek, rhodium-plated finish, they hit that perfect balance of elegance and personality. We especially love them as a gift for a silk anniversary or as a refined finishing touch for a wedding look. Comes boxed and ready to gift. And yes, there’s a matching bow tie and pocket square if you’re going for the full effect.
Silkscreen Wall Art
Why not mark the occasion by giving a beautiful piece of silkscreen wall art to make your house feel like a home.
Silk Pocket Square
We couldn’t stop scrolling through the collection – these Italian 100% silk pocket squares are just that good. From bold florals to playful prints (yes, there are snails and butterflies), each one feels like a small work of art designed to upgrade your suit game.
The deep, rich color combos like ruby red & navy or gold & chocolate brown that add dimension without overpowering. They’re handmade in Europe using premium silk, so they feel as luxe as they look. Whether the’ll be dressing for a wedding, rehearsal dinner, or just want to look sharp at their next cocktail hour, these squares are a style-savvy essential
Silk Boxers
A bit cliche? Sure but who cares. They will still make for a fitting gift.
Silk Scarf
We’re all about the vibrant paisley options on these 100% silk scarves—each one small and bold enough to style as a neckerchief, bandana, or wrapped around a ponytail. The smooth, lightweight fabric feels instantly luxe, and the color combos (from moody jewel tones to soft neutrals) are full of personality.
Silk Slippers
A gift of comfort and elegance with these Luxurious Mulberry Silk Slippers. Crafted from 22 momme mulberry silk, these slippers are as soft and breathable as they are stylish, offering a cozy and pampered feel with every step. Soft satin, quilted for comfort, and finished with oversized pom poms that feel just the right amount of extra. The rubber sole gives them grip, but it’s the color palette that really sold us: rich, playful, and surprisingly elevated.
Thanks for checking out our roundup of silk anniversary gift ideas. Until next year (hint: it’s wood) congratulations on your fourth anniversary and we wish you all the best in the years to come!
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Meredith
Despite her dreamy wedding blogger lifestyle, Meredith's day job is running ClassicVeils.com and a full-time mom to an active toddler. If she could, Meredith would spend her days taking cruises, helping animals in need, and watching Big Brother!
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